LESSONS OUR PARENTS TAUGHT US THAT WE ONLY UNDERSTOOD IN OUR 20’S

Elite Daily know how to hit a nerve with their articles. Recently I read two articles that stuck with me to the point that I decided to make my own version of them. One was about lessons parents taught us about hard work, and one was about lessons our fathers taught us as children that we only understood in our 20s.

Here are the lessons I think our parents taught us, about life and hard work, that meant one thing to us as children, but mean a whole lot more to us now in our twenties.

I. TAKE CARE OF YOUR THINGS

Then: A way for our parents to add to our list of chores.

Now:  The older we grow the more we rely on our things and the better we treat them the better they’ll serve us.

II. DO NOT LIE

Then: Getting grounded for lying about having dessert before dinner.

Now: Lying becomes a survival tactic and if you get too used to it you will be caught in your own trap and that is no good…

III. FAMILY TIME IS IMPORTANT

Then: Not going out on Friday nights in order to have dinner with the family may  be aggravating because you’ll miss the 7 o’clock movie time.

Now: With the busy and fast pace of life it is easy to overlook taking time for yourself and those you love and love you. Remembering to take breaks to reconnect with family helps get your mind back on track and remind you that you have constant and consistent support and motivation. More importantly, that you always have a place to go.

IV. LOVE IS NOT ABOUT WORDS

Then: Doing something bad, saying “I’m sorry mommy, I love you” then going and doing the same thing again usually didn’t cut it.

Now: Similarly, you learn to expect to show and receive love in a form beyond words. Saying the words ‘ I love you’ mean nothing if actions show the contrary.

IV. ‘SLEEP TIGHT, DON’T LET THE BED BUGS BITE.’

Then: A cute phrase mommy or daddy said as they tucked us into bed and turned off the lights. I used to think it meant I had to sleep tight and stay in bed or else bed bugs would bite me if I did not sleep…. (confusing I know. The imagination of a child I guess.)

Now: Clean sheets are essential. Change your sheets on the regular people, on the regular!

V. YOU CAN BECOME ANYTHING YOU DECIDE TO BE

Then: If I said it then it was. I want to be a princess… I will become a princess, thats how I decided.

Now: I want to become an athlete, I will become an athlete and the moment I decide to do it is the moment I start working towards it. Every decision I take is a decision towards that one main decision of what I want to be. Decisions are actions not words.

VI. FINISH WHAT IS ON YOUR PLATE BEFORE YOU SERVE MORE

Then: you had to eat all your veggies before you can serve more fries.

Now: Don’t take on more than you can handle. Before you take on another project make sure you finish the one you’re working on.

VII. “I DON’T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING, I CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING.”

Then: our parents were strict and did not “get it.”

Now: Do not concern yourself with other people, worry about yourself. Of all the things in this world the one thing you can control is yourself, your actions, and your reactions. If you focus on what others are doing you will not excel nor find peace of mind.

VIII. EVERY STORM PASSES

Then: the sun will shine and I’ll be able to play outside again.

Now: In good times and bad everything will be ok. When something happens that flips your life upside down it will pass and you will be O.K.

IX. LISTEN AND RESPECT THOSE OLDER THAN YOU

Then: Make sure to say hi to Nonna and Papa, and respect the mailman.

Now: Say hi to Nonna and Papa and respect the mailman because they are great hard working people. Anyone older has seen more and been through more and deserves your respect regardless of what you think.

X. “I’LL THINK ABOUT IT” MEANS “NO”

Then: If they said they’ll think about you sleeping over with your friends, then you will not.

Now: If people tell you they will ‘try’ or ‘think about it’ then they will not so don’t waste your time with people who don’t waste their time with you. Same goes for you, if you say you’ll think about it you probably won’t. You’ll either do it or you won’t, no in between.

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